Walking Away From an Unhealthy Marriage Isn’t the End. It’s the Beginning
Walking away from an unhealthy marriage should feel like freedom. But for today’s guest on Attention Is The Currency, that freedom was only the start of a deeper battle.
A year after leaving, she was still haunted by self-doubt. Legal fights drained her, stretched her thin as a mother, and she was quietly wondering if she had made the right choice. Then she asked herself one life-changing question:
“What if there’s another way?”
That single thought opened a new path, leading her from brokenness to unshakable strength.
From Silence to Self-Discovery
Matina Singh isn’t just a survivor. She’s a force for transformation. A certified Emotional Code Practitioner, divorce recovery coach, and meditation guide, she now helps others break free from the emotional chains of the past.
Her story began like so many others. Years of silencing her inner voice, pretending everything was fine, and sacrificing her own happiness to keep the façade of a perfect family alive.
“I was miserable on the inside,” she says. “But I kept smiling for everyone else. I kept tucking away that voice telling me this wasn’t right.”
For years, that voice was buried under fear. Fear of judgment. Fear of failing family expectations. Fear of what life would look like outside the marriage. Like countless others, she stayed too long.
Why Freedom Still Felt Heavy
When Matina finally walked away, freedom was not light. It was crushing.
“As an Indian woman who grew up obeying strict cultural rules, I had never really known freedom,” she recalls. “First, I listened to my parents. Then I had a husband to answer to. Suddenly, it was just me. No family nearby, three children depending on me, and no blueprint for what life could look like.”
She had escaped, but she was depleted. Nights spent crying quietly on the couch were proof that survival is not the same as healing.
The Turning Point
Everything shifted when she came across a prompt from Tony Robbins:
“Most people know what they don’t want. Few know what they truly want.”
That hit hard.
“For the first time, I realized I didn’t know what I wanted. I only knew what I was running from,” she says. That realization sparked a relentless search for healing. She invested thousands into personal growth, workshops, meditation, and eventually discovered the Emotional Code method.
Releasing the Weight of the Past
Matina explains trapped emotions as invisible chains. Unprocessed moments get lodged in the body and sabotage us long after the divorce papers are signed.
“We think we’ve moved on,” she says. “But those suppressed emotions turn into fog, into disease, into self-doubt that keeps replaying the same patterns.”
Through Emotional Code and deep inner work, she released those chains. Not by reliving the pain, but by acknowledging it and letting it move through.
The result was a complete rebirth.
From Survivor to Guide
Today, Matina helps clients worldwide break through the same fog. From women rebuilding after divorce to children struggling with competition and fear, her work is not just about recovery. It is about reclamation.
Her message is clear. Investing in yourself isn’t selfish. It is survival. We spend tens of thousands on weddings and funerals, but hesitate to spend a fraction on our healing. That hesitation keeps people stuck.
“Your past is not your future,” she reminds. “You do not have to carry that heavy backpack another day.”
The Bigger Lesson
Leaving an unhealthy marriage is only step one. The real transformation begins when you decide you are worth the work. When you stop suppressing your emotions, start investing in your growth, and claim your life without apology.
Her final challenge is direct and liberating:
Stop comparing yourself. Stop saying you are not good enough. Start honoring your emotions and your worth. That is where freedom begins.
Connect With Matina Singh
If her story resonates, visit MatinaSingh.com or follow her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. Healing is not about waiting for time to pass. It is about choosing yourself today.
Attention is the currency. Do not spend it telling yourself you are not enough. Invest it in becoming who you were always meant to be.