“Your relationships aren’t broken. You’re lying to yourself.”
That’s the tough truth that today’s guest on Attention Is the Currency had to learn the hard way—and now she’s teaching others how to stop blaming, stop spiraling, and start owning their lives again.
Angela Spooner is the founder of Real Raw Relationships LLC and host of the Real and Raw Relationships Unfiltered podcast. She’s not a “love and light” coach—she’s a firestarter in the best way.
After 15 years of trauma, toxic relationships, and raising three dysregulated kids alone, she looked in the mirror and realized the truth:
She wasn’t just a survivor. She was part of the problem.
And that’s exactly when everything changed.
The Breaking Point: When You Realize You’re the Chaos
Angela doesn’t sugarcoat her past. Her story involves abusive partners, being reported to child services, financial collapse, and one therapist ending up in the hospital because Angela’s life gave them anxiety.
But the real turning point?
“I got blackout drunk, humiliated myself, and woke up the next day thinking—what the hell am I doing?”
That moment sparked a brutal journey of self-inquiry. She stopped blaming her exes, her kids, the system, and the chaos. She ripped off every excuse and decided to own every part of her story—even the ugly bits.
Stop Gaslighting Yourself
Angela now helps clients (mostly women) who are still stuck in the same loops:
🚫 “I’m fine.”
🚫 “It’s not that bad.”
🚫 “It’s everyone else’s fault.”
Nope. She’s not here for it.
“You’re not a victim. You’re just terrified of being honest.”
Whether it’s parenting, partnership, self-worth, or healing, Angela teaches that true change doesn’t start with positive affirmations. It starts with radical truth.
Real Talk: Why Most Healing Programs Fail
So many healing spaces are focused on “love yourself,” “accept your past,” or “just raise your vibe.” Angela calls BS.
“We want quick fixes. We want someone to tell us we’re good moms, good partners, good enough. But if you can’t validate yourself, nothing external will stick.”
In her work, she teaches the four C’s:
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Confidence
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Connection
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Communication
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Consistency
But it all starts with the first C—learning how to trust yourself again, without shame and without stories.
Real and Raw Coaching: Not for the Faint of Heart
Angela’s flagship program, the Real & Raw Relationship Reset, is an 8-week guided journey of burning the BS and rebuilding your identity from the inside out.
📌 3 videos a week (pre-recorded and deeply researched)
📌 One-on-one coaching access
📌 For women ready to own every relationship—including the one with themselves
“If you’re still making excuses, I’m not the coach for you. But if you’re ready to stop living in emotional chaos—I’ll walk with you through the fire.”
Her Advice to Every Woman (and Man) Feeling Stuck?
“Start asking: Where could I be wrong?”
Not with shame. But with curiosity.
If you want a different result, you need to ask a different question.
And if your relationships, parenting, or business is falling apart—it’s time to stop blaming and start building.
“A dysregulated parent cannot regulate a dysregulated child. You want to fix your kids? Start with yourself.”
If Attention Is the Currency…
We asked Angela our signature question:
If attention is the currency, what should people be investing it in right now?
Her answer?
“The lies they tell themselves.”
Because when you finally see where you’ve been bullshitting yourself…
You stop playing the victim.
You stop needing permission.
And you start changing for real.
Listen to the Full Episode Now
Angela Spooner is not here to pat your back.
She’s here to hand you the mirror—and help you rebuild.
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Because attention is the currency, and nothing costs more than the lies we keep living.